I have had the decisiveness for a number of…
I have had the decisiveness for a number of years. I used to go to people for advice or are some friends or other people for advice a long time ago and probably because unfortunately the advice that I got most of the time turned out to be not in my best interest if I followed it, so I started relying on myself more so than on other people. With that being said there are a number of decisions that are of significant consequence either people wise or money-wise or impact wise that I will still go to various people to present to them the decision that I'm planning on making and asking them to critique that decision.
— from Decisions & Choices (Decision/Choice/Focus/Forethought/Consequences)
In the book
One clean defense against your own noise is to average several independent judgments. I learned to rely on myself, but on decisions of real consequence I still lay out my plan and ask trusted people to critique it — best of all in a group where everyone must speak, the hunt is for the proposal's weaknesses, and the criticism is never personal. Hear them all — and then make the call your own. […] Which leads to the third trap, the sunk cost: do not anchor today's choice to yesterday's spent effort or your wish to look consistent — feel free to have no attachment to your past decisions, and simply make the best of the situation you actually find yourself in now. And the fourth is outsourcing your judgment. Seek counsel, yes — but I started relying on myself precisely because so much of the advice I once took turned out not to be in my interest. Counsel informs the decision; it must never become the decision. — Decisions & Choices (Decision/Choice/Focus/Forethought/Consequences)