there can be no free ride in a true…
Page 142 there can be no free ride in a true togetherness. To get you first have to gift, and you only can gift if you care, and, Ideally, Kenmore for the other that for yourself.
— from Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)
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The research even puts a number on it: people in strong, happy relationships tend to run about five positive exchanges for every negative one, so the work is partly just to keep that ratio healthy. And the first deposit is always yours to make — in any true togetherness there is no free ride; to receive, you first have to give, and you can only really give if you care more for the other than for yourself. The simplest deposit of all is attention: to be fully aware of and present to every person you deal with, especially the ones closest to you. — Friends, Community & Society (Relationships/Community/Society)