Need number two is unpredictability which is the need…

Need number two is unpredictability which is the need for surprise, changing variety to prevent boredom. This can be doing something interesting on the positive side or on the negative side can be irresponsible gambling number three is significance which is the need to feel special or unique or important or to feel needed. You can feel significant by achieving something or it can be used to hurt people for gain an unfair advantage. Need number four is connection and love which is the need to connect with other people and ability to relationships. Need number five is growth which is a spiritual need and need number six is contribution which is also a spiritual need. When you make decisions in life see how these decisions are going to meet your needs in the short-term around a long time. A side note is that if you have significance or certainty as one of your top two needs you are guaranteed to have problems because in order to have certainty is number one everything has to stay the same which life does not do which means you have to start controlling your environment or be stressed out all the time. If significance one of your top needs you're always going to have to be competing with someone else and you could end up lying to yourself about your real liabilities or surround yourself with people that are less skilled. All dysfunctional behaviors arise from the inability to consistently meet these six needs. If you're in a relationship with somebody and you meet one of their needs you're going to have an acquaintance, to their needs you're going to have a friend, three of their needs you're going to have a deep friendship, for their needs is going to be deep love and five or six of these their needs they're not going anywhere. Both partners should be aware of their own top two needs and their partner's top two needs and make these needs a priority but also ensure that the other needs are being met.

— from The Air Traffic Controller (God)

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