Once you stop trying to control your past and…

Once you stop trying to control your past and just let it go,

— from The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection) · It’s all in your Head, written by Stephen Pollan and Mark Levine

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Get out from between your own ears, look at yourself from the outside for a moment, and you will be both more realistic and, strangely, kinder. And then, the hardest part: once you stop trying to control the past, you can finally let it go. And beware the mirror's opposite face, the future: if you look to tomorrow for your happiness you will always have the possibility of contentment but never quite arrive at it, for too many of us spend our lives planning and dreaming about how wonderful life could be and so fail to notice how wonderful it already is. […] Know your foundations. Name your strengths, your values, where you belong, and what you can contribute; find them by reflecting on when you did your best work. Let the past go. When you are stuck in the loop, step outside and watch yourself like a fly on the wall, then stop trying to control what is already gone and release it. To my children, and to theirs: — The Relationship With Yourself (Traits/Reflection)

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