Many people confuse experiencing anger with acting out anger

Many people confuse experiencing anger with acting out anger. Ex-periencing anger is a purely internal experience. This stands in direct contrast to acting out anger. Acting out anger unleashes it on an-other person. Anger can be unleashed directly at the person who made you angry, or it may be unleashed on someone else who is just in the wrong place at the wrong time.

— from The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy) · It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Co

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People who live inside anger are really nursing a wound of insecurity, forever needing to feel better than everyone else. The crucial distinction is between experiencing anger, which is a private internal event, and acting it out, which unloads it onto another human being — often someone who simply had the bad luck to be standing there. The brain has a "hot" system and a "cool" system, and they inhibit each other: when the hot one floods in, the cool one shuts down. — The Heart in the Cockpit (Emotion/Awe/Anxiety/Regret/Empathy)

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